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My best friend is sufferring severe depression after he shouted to his wife just before his death in a car accident. They had this big fight on child discipline and he went jogging. Meanwhile, she dropped the children to swimming lessons and has been hit hard by a sleepy driver elderly. She died in hospital later that evening. What bothers is that my boyfriend as the last words he said to her were angry. I told her she had forgiven her if she could, but that is little comfort to him. It has since developed a very bad drinking problem (drinking 24 / 7) and has not been able to work. I think to write a letter to his doctor to offer some advice on treatment (if nothing more than for the alcohol problem). Has anyone had this experience? How do you deal with it??? Thank you

On March 4 this year me, my best friend Chelsea, this young girl, Stephanie and a few other people were all pending. Me and Chelsea in a fight with Stephanie and Stephanie said a ton of things to tell Chelsea that day .. Chelsea died the next day.
This kind of thing happens. I guess your friend and his wife were normally on good terms with them. In this case, yes, I am positive she forgives him. I know he must feel guilty, and I hate it for him.
But just because he was angry against him, does not mean she did not know that he loves. She wants him to take care of their kids. You should tell him that .. I wish him the best.

I'm not on good terms with my mother right now. I hope we can fix things before it all happens one day. She was 70 years old now. I feel really terrible, I'm sure. I really learned from this to never lose my temper and hurt someone feeling.

Do not give up your friend and learn about him constantly to ensure it is ok. good luck

which would be the suckiest of all things sucky I can imagine

Yes, unfortunately, I had a similar situation. My best friend started dating my brother and I felt like I was losing it. Then I started to avoid her and her ignorant. Then she died suddenly from complications of a heart transplant, she had a few years ago (she was 24). It took me a very long time to come to terms with his death and the fact that I would never have the chance to apologize for her not being there and friends who remain. The two things that helped me was to learn to forgive me for abandoning my friend, and asking God to tell him I was sorry. I felt it was the only means she had the message and would be the best thing to tell myself - this was not an option at this point.

So, for your friend, it takes time to forgive his dying wife at a time when things were not going well between them. And he needs to stay away from alcohol - thats only create more problems and magnifying those he already has.

My sister has been missing for 34 years and the last words we spoke were words of anger. I went into a deep funk for a long time thereafter. But then I put it in God's hands and he made me see that my sister is with him and she forgave me. She knows that I loved him and always. But the day it's not just happening without it does not come in my mind, but only with good memories. Your friend needs some advice quickly. I think it would be a good idea for you to communicate with her doctor and make him aware of what is happening. In the meantime, just be there for him. Listen to him, no matter how much or how often he wants to talk. Talking about it helps a lot. Just be a friend, he needs all the friends he can get right now. I will pray for him.
Remind him that his children need him even more now. They do not deserve t.